วันพุธที่ 13 สิงหาคม พ.ศ. 2551
How to Deal with Neighbors from Hell
As a novelist, I've written about some nasty neighbors. But actually living next to them (and not being able to write them out of the story) is awful. To get some ideas on handling sticky conflicts, I posed some questions to Bob Borzotta, an expert on neighbor relations and the founder of neighborsfromhell.com.
Q. Your NFH (neighbor from hell) is a SIC (selfish inconsiderate bitch.). You could write a book about all the mean things she's done. Is retaliation ever okay?
A. Retaliation is usually the weapon of choice by the bad neighbor - a good neighbor might call police about a noisy party, then the bad neighbor retaliates by slashing the good one's tires. As long as it's within the law, some forms of retaliation may help.
If my neighbor refuses to bring in her yappy dog by 11 p.m., I may set off my car alarm at 6 a.m. - unless it's parked where it will disturb other neighbors. The idea is to send the message that there are consequences for being un-neighborly.
Q. But before the battle escalates, what's step one?
A. Step one is communication, but not by a note in the mailbox, or e-mail. You don't want the neighbor having proof that they've been "harrassed" by you. The best approach, though intimidating, is to meet face to face. Be polite, use a nice speaking voice and don't show up with the rest of the block, putting the person on the defensive. Express your concerns and ask for their understanding. It might nip things in the bud, and if it doesn't, feel free to involve authorities (though that is no guarantee either).
Q. Meet face to face? But what if the person seems really, really scary?
A. Obviously don't endanger your life, but often when there are hostilities between neighbors, they've never met, don't know each other's names. The good neighbor may only know the bad neighbor by their offending behavior and judge them based on race, religion, age, etc.
By introducing yourself, you're showing you can't be intimidated and you're making it very personal. Why would they want to alienate a nice person like yourself? I know of an instance where the good neighbor gave the bad one a gift basket, mentioned the noise problem, and that was all it took.
Q. Okay, let's say the neighbor is nice but the ten-year old son is a beast. He tramples your rosebushes, harasses your dog and threatens your kids. The mom shrugs and says boys will be boys.
A. Oh. Her. Inside that giant-SUV-driving, over-caffeinated, mentally-absent Mom of the Year is a definite Neighbor From Hell. But at the same time, "live where you belong." The suburbs and other family-friendly neighborhoods are prone to misbehaving kids, barking dogs, roving teens, and disputes over snow-shoveling to landscape-damaging water run-off. It goes with the territory so expect to be a little tolerant. Also consider that restoring civility in any dispute is a process, one that can take a lot out of the better neighbors. The key is not to let it make you ill. Be patient, be persistent, be pro-active. Over time, the bad neighbor may either compromise or decide to annoy someone else.
Q. What is it about suburbia that fosters such competitiveness and resentment among neighbors?
A. Insecurity can bloom anywhere - but a suburban neighborhood can be a prime breeding ground because the close proximity of the houses gives people an amazing view of how their neighbors live, what they drive, etc. Also, there are more opportunities to interact because of time spent outside- driveways, yards, school bus stops, etc. Very hard to hide your new, enviable BMW (not that you're trying to). Just know that the better someone gets to know you, the more likely they will judge you fairly. Neighbor disputes escalate much more quickly when the parties are strangers.
Q. What is the key to achieving lasting peace when next door neighbors are like hostile nations?
A. The only way to guarantee a resolution is if one neighbor moves away or dies, which is why I say it's better to try to manage the hostilities rather than expect to resolve them. Best way to quiet the tensions is to back off for a while. If you constantly feed the fire, it's you who gets engulfed in the flames.
Q. What's worse? Neighbors who never got along, or ones that were close, then had a falling out?
A. Neither feels good. Friends-turned-enemies make for ongoing battles because there's personal pain on both sides. But when we don't know our neighbors, we're less tolerant of their occasional disturbances. It helps to be friendly to everyone so that if a problem arises, the trigger finger isn't as quick to go off.
Q. Now that we can keep tabs on each other through the Internet, cell phones, nanny-cams, have we become a nation of Peeping Cyber Toms?
A. Good people don't suddenly change because of the advent of technology. They still abide by common decency. However, a word of caution. If you don't want your antics to be seen on You-Tube, lower the shade. Also, good behavior caught on tape isn't news. No one is going to watch you bringing over a pie to the new neighbors.
Q. Finally, what is the best way to keep your cool when all you think about is revenge?
A. My doctor once told me that the intestine is the mirror of the mind. Do you really want to have to surgically repair your digestive tract because of a neighbor dispute? If you've tried everything to overcome the hostilities, either move or turn to relaxing techniques so that you can stay on the high road. Sometimes we win by not losing our minds, our intestines, our joy in life. We win if we don't dwell on revenge.
farouk
วันศุกร์ที่ 8 สิงหาคม พ.ศ. 2551
Nutrition in the West vs. Nutrition in the East
No two areas of the world are as different as the East and the West. While many influences have crossed over from year to year, there are still many traditional ways of living that are maintained by both. Nutrition is one of them. Over the past few years, the West has learned a lot about nutrition based on the way people in the East have thrived for centuries if not longer.
In the West it’s all about doctors, specialists, nutritionists, and others in the medical field who take a more scientific and clinical approach to nutrition. The food pyramid was established in the West, with generations of children and adults following its guidelines. The fascination with fitness and celebrities make women young and old clamor to find out what the latest fad diet is. Because of the obsession with looking and feeling good well into middle age and beyond, many Westerners look for the next “it” skincare or anti-aging product. Many learn how to provide their bodies with the right nutrients, attend the gym regularly, and are devoted to pilates and yoga. So what makes the West so different from the East in its approach to nutrition and healthy living?
In the East, it’s all about treating your body as a temple. Those in the East stick tried and true to ancient dishes that are free from excess sugar, junk foods, frozen meals, and overly processed foods. Of course these goodies from the West can be found in many Eastern countries but for the average family, the meals remain unchanged for many years. The East embraces everything grown from the Earth. Japan is widely known to have some of the oldest individuals alive. It is because of their traditional and alternative approach to nutrition, dedication to nature, and knowledge of one’s body that they continue to produce so many healthy people - from childhood until the elderly years. Additionally, in the East, the general public not only respects the elderly, they celebrate them. Whereas in the West, getting older is something to be afraid of, those in the East accept the fact that the body ages and even throw festivals to celebrate their elderly members of society. How differently things would be if the West shared this outlook!
Unfortunately, for the West, everyone is on the go. With routines, schedules and activities that need to be completed, it gets hard for both young and old to maintain healthy habits. For a majority, the lack of time plays heavily into why many Westerners are obese or well in their way. With the temptation of fast food restaurants on every corner and home cooked meals becoming rare in the average household, sticking to a nutritious and healthy eating regimen is easier said than done. Instead of the necessary fruits, veggies and supplements, Westerners fall prey to starches, fats, too many carbs and greasy foods. In the East, the majority of the public still enjoys home cooked foods, prepared with natural ingredients. Tea is a staple beverage in the East, accounting for a bounty of antioxidants, flavanoids and scores of other wonderful properties. Sushi and other seafood meals are tasty, rich in omega-3 fatty acids and are free of preservatives and artificial flavors, while other countries utilize rich spices.
วันพฤหัสบดีที่ 7 สิงหาคม พ.ศ. 2551
How Did Mom Raise 4 Olympians?
The first family of taekwondo heads to Beijing, and are counting on more than just medals. | |||||
Imagine a mother's pride watching her child compete in the Olympic games. For Ondina Lopez, four of her children are headed to Beijing and together, they will fight for gold. | |||||
For the first time in Olympic history, four siblings will be walking in the opening ceremonies together. Jean, 34 and and the U.S. coach; Mark, 26; Steven, 29; and Diana, 24, all qualified for the Beijing games, which hasn't happened since the Tritschler brothers competed against each other in 1904 in gymnastics. For the first time also, their mom, Ondina Lopez, will be going to watch her children. It was a pact they made with her this year: If they all made it, she would go. Although her son Steven competed and won in Sydney and in Athens, Ondina was too nervous to go and stayed home in Sugarland, Texas while the rest of the family went. There's no backing out this time. We talked to Ondina about her children, her pride and what it's going to feel like to watch her children walking the opening ceremonies together. ML: What does it feel like to have four of your children going to Beijing? Ondina: It is hard for me to believe this is really happening -- but at the same time I am very thankful for all the blessings my family has received. The kids have worked so hard for this moment and I am so happy their dreams have come true. This will be such a special moment for them that they can cherish for the rest of their lives.
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วันอังคารที่ 5 สิงหาคม พ.ศ. 2551
After baby... don't lose that loving feeling
MANY men complain that after their children are born, the relationship dies because the wife turns her attention to the kids and leaves the man wanting. Many women are guilty - they often don't know how to juggle the needs of children and a husband. The couples who succeed have helped us with these 10 ways to sustain a relationship after childbirth.
1. Regain your attraction.
Believe it or not, men are moved by attraction, so the moment you start losing your attractiveness will be the moment he starts looking elsewhere. To avoid this pitfall, ensure that you exercise to get rid of the excess baby fat, tone your body and stay fit in the process. Exercise will get rid of some of the fatigue that you are sure to feel.
2. Set aside time for your spouse.
No matter how tedious looking after the baby is, never neglect the needs of your spouse - they can be as jealous as a two-year-old! Ensure that you spend time with him letting him know that he is just as important to you as he was before the baby came. When the child is asleep, make some adult time and spend this time together just cuddling up to each other. This is also a good time to spend bonding - you can talk, watch TV, tend to our hobbies, have sex, etc. Whatever you want to do, know that the time is literally for the both of you.
3. Change your wardrobe.
One sure way of being attractive to your spouse is to change your wardrobe and ensure that you get rid of the baggy maternity clothes you wore during pregnancy. This is also a good time to get back into your short shorts since he missed seeing you in them for so long.
4. Go out on dates.
Leave the child in the care of a trusted relative for a day out of the week or fortnight and go out together. This time is very important for bonding. Alternate if you desire - one week visit somewhere he enjoys then the next time around go someplace you enjoy. Talk about topics unrelated to the baby.
5. Do things together.
Encourage him to play an equal role in the child's life. Giving baths, changing diapers and even feeding is a form of bonding not just with the child but with each other. As he gets closer to the baby, he will also feel closer to you.
6. Do vaginal exercises.
To keep your love life burning, try the Kegel exercise which will tighten the walls of the vagina thus allowing you both to enjoy intercourse as mush as you did before childbirth. Kegel exercises consist of contracting and relaxing the muscles which form part of the pelvic floor. This results in the strengthening of the muscles of the vagina making the vagina becoming tighter over time.
7. Physical contact.
Physical contact and all that good stuff, even in front of the child(ren) in a relationship is important in keeping the intimacy alive. Kiss a lot, hug as soon as you get a chance to and sit in his lap while you find out how his day went. This adds volume to your relationship.
8. Plan ahead.
Acknowledge and appreciate all the wonderful things you'll do for each other, inspite of the fact that a child is in the picture. Acknowledge what your partner does and make suggestions as to how it could be better.
9. Be confident in yourself.
Some women may see a change in their body as a result of the new baby. Love your body for what it is and in doing so, your spouse will appreciate you as you are. Confidence goes a long way!
10. Rekindle your interest in lovemaking.
Keep the flames and passion alive by finding interesting ways of making love (this doesn't necessarily have to include intercourse), as long as it is spontaneous and can achieve the desired results.
วันจันทร์ที่ 4 สิงหาคม พ.ศ. 2551
Craziest Women’s Shoes of the Season
Mark Jacobs
Ones of the most extraordinary shoes of Summer 2008 are those made by Mark Jacobs. And if the shoes with imaginary heels could be worn somehow, the strange beige ones – no way.
Alessandro Dell’Acqua
As you know, the more massive the shoes, the more elegant your legs look. Well, by all appearances, Alessandro Dell’Acqua decided to demonstrate exactly this in his Spring-Summer 2008 collection. As for me, these shoes look best of all the shoes shown here. I’m only afraid of wearing them, as they look extremely dangerous.
Junko Shimada
The Japanese designer Junko Shimada’s motto is also “the more the better” – she was so generous with flowers and butterflies when creating her collection. Well, maybe, for some these shoes still look nice, but walking in them would be possible only for a real geisha.
Alexander McQueen
Alexander McQueen goes on with the geisha topic, but unlike the shoes created by Junko Shimada, which look a bit refined, these ones are just an artwork. And, as you know, art is a quite disputable topic.
Alexandre Herchcovitch
Alexandre Herchcovitch likes playing with fashion. He created a shoe collection which resembles the pictures from a good-old fairy tale.
Maison Martin Margiela
Shoes made by Maison Martin Margiela become more and more eccentric every season: starting with transparent plastic shoes and ending with the cloven ones. However, there are lots of fans (and customers) of the designer all over the world. So, there will be women who would like to wear such sh…oes.
Prada
Today every shoe fashion talk involves Prada. The creations of Miuccia surprise every season. The summer collection includes sandals and shoes which would look best on nymphs’ and fairies’ feet.
However, the shoes from Fall-Winter 2008-2009 collection of Prada look just monstrous.
Is all this created for women? Do we really want to wear this? I find almost all of these shoes disgusting and I’m sure, most of them are very uncomfortable. And what do you think?
Tips To Staying Faithful On Your Diet While Eating Out
Many of us feel that being on a diet means that we are not allowed to have any food from a restaurant. We feel that we can only eat what we have at the house. This is a misconception that many of us have and is one of the reasons why we have such a hard time staying on track. You can eat out with no problem just remember that there are still a few guidelines that you have to live by while dieting.
1. Order healthy portions
There is nothing wrong with ordering that big, juicy steak that has been smothered in barbecue sauce. Or even those mashed potatoes that are covered in butter and salt. Just remember to order a vegetable or salad on the side so that you are also eating a bit healthy.
2. Order small amounts
If you are going to a fast food restaurant order the kids meal. This will ensure you that you are eating a small meal and less calories. You will feel satisfied - but you won’t feel guilty.
3. Get the doggy bag early
Right after your meal has been delivered to you ask the waitress for a doggy bag. Put half of your meal away and save it for tomorrow’s lunch or dinner. This will ensure that you only eat half and you do not over indulge. Maybe now you can get the dessert you love with room to spare.
4. Water, water, water
I cannot stress enough how important water is on a diet. Try to order only water while you are out. You don’t want to go overboard on your calorie intake and the food that you ordered will be enough of that. If you feel like something else to drink (soda or alcohol) order only one and then go back to the water. (Remember: Drinking lots of water before the meal arrives also helps you to eat less by filling you up faster)
5. Eat slow
Eating slow will help you to digest your food better and will also fill you up slower. This means that in the long run you will eat less and feel satisfied.
วันอาทิตย์ที่ 3 สิงหาคม พ.ศ. 2551
Pine Nuts are an Appetite Suppressant and also Reduce Cholesterol
Pine nuts are a high protein nut that come from pinecones that grow on pine trees. The pine family of trees produce both male and female pine cones, although nuts are only found in fertilized female cones. Harvesting of the nuts can be a fairly labor-intensive task since the cones need to be heated to help dislodge the nuts. This is why pine nuts are generally more expensive than other nuts.
There are well over a hundred varieties of pine, yet less then a handful produce seeds that are useful (many are too small). The main varieties of the pine nut are the Pinus pin, a Mediterranean stone pine, Pinus edulis, a pine that grows in southwest US and Pinus cembroides, a Mexican nut pine.
The seeds themselves although they fall under the same umbrella of pine nut, are also known as piñon, pignoli and pignolia. Chinese varieties are known for their strong flavor, while European types have higher levels of protein. Their size can vary from about 1 – 5cm in length, with over a hundred seeds coming from one cone.
Pine nuts have been used for culinary purposes around the world for centuries. In ancient Greece they were thought to possess aphrodisiac qualities and preserved in honey; and Hopi and Navajo tribes have been recorded as using them as source of protein. They either ate them dried or ground the nuts into a course powder then mixed the paste with water to make porridge.
Today, pine nuts can be found in many dishes, from classic Italian pesto to Turkish rice dishes. In North Africa, they are often used in sweets and in Tunisia their taste is used to enhance the flavor of mint tea.
Along with high protein and fat levels, pine nuts are also filled with amino acids, making them a great source of nutrition. More recently oil has been extracted from the pine nuts and used as both a dietary supplement for which can help suppress the appetite (and therefore used to combat weight-loss) and for its antioxidant action.
Health Benefits of Pine Nuts
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Nutrient Values of Pine Nuts per 100g | ||||
Calories 673kcal | Energy Value 2816kj | Total Fat 68.37g | Carbohydrates 13.08g | Sugars 3.59g |
Dietary Fiber 3.7g | Protein 13.69g | Sodium 2mg | Zinc 6.45mg | Potassium 597mg |
Iron 5.53mg | Magnesium 251mg | Copper 1.324mg | Calcium 16mg | Vitamin C 0.8mg |
Vitamin E 9.33mg | Vit. B3 (Niacin) 4.387mg | Vitamin B6 0.094mg | Vit. B1 (Thiamin) 0.364mg | Vit. B2 (Riboflavin) 0.227mg |